"The prevalent discourse in the religious public, both before and after the wedding, is 'give it to him even if you don't feel like it,' 'make it possible, go with the flow.' That's the worst thing. It makes a woman not want to even more and develop a negative approach, and it's definitely not fair towards the women. I had a couple in which the husband asked a rabbi what he should do if his wife is not showing enough interest in marital life. The rabbi said, 'Have a talk with her, explain to her that it's very, very important to you, and that she should allow it.' These are destructive statements. They stem from a conservative worldview that women 'don't really enjoy themselves.' A woman doesn't want to have sex because it's not good for her, because she's going through something. Let's help her instead of forcing her into an act she doesn’t want."