Hole In The Sheet: Sex Rules Of Gerrer Hasidim
…[As a child,] she always asked herself why her uncles would not even look at her. No one answered her questions and finally she found out that those are the modesty rules of the group. One day, at the age of 18, she came home from school and her mother told her that they found a Shidduch for her. She spoke to this Chassid for two hours and the next time she saw him was under the Chuppah [at her own wedding].
In her blog, she quotes some women who said that their wedding night was nothing but "rape". Chassidut Gur has wild sex Takanot and, among others, men and women only uncover the "necessary" body parts…
Basically you are going into bed with a person you do not even know. Here, she emphasizes, that it is the same (bad) experience for a man and a woman.
"It was a total rape. I felt dirty and I wanted to push him down from my body"…
[For Gerrer hasidim] everything is determined [by the rebbe and group leadership] and so-called "Madrichim-Guides" even watch over everyone's sex lives.…
Two years ago, I posted on some Gerrer sex rules as reported by an insider:
1) cannot show any affection towards their wives (chibuk v'neishuk [hugging and kissing]) even during intimacy
2) cannot be with their wife (outside of mikva night) unless they get permission from their "kommadent" (superior)
3) wives must walk in back of husbands
4) After giving birth wife cannot go to mikvah for 1/2 year [so the couple cannot have sex for those six months].